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Highlander Soccer Plays Tough at Nationals

The Highlander  men’s and women’s soccer teams competed in the Division I National Christian College Athletic Association (NCCAA) National Championship last week in Kissimmee, Florida.

The men’s season ended sooner than anticipated after losing each of their two games in the first round of play in the tournament.

In the women’s championship, Houghton had one win and one tie in the first round, advancing them to the semi-finals where they ended their season, losing to Colorado Christian University, who went on to win the championship.

Going into the tournament the women were seeded 8th of 9 teams, and were placed in Pool B with the #2 and #5 seeds. “Our team played very well in the Pool Games and advanced to the Final Four by winning our pool” said Lewis.

Reflecting on last year’s tournament, Jennifer Zacchigna ’17 said, “We had a strong performance on the women’s side, making it to the final four in a tournament with a lot of talented teams.”

She continued, “We would’ve loved to make it to the championship to defend our title, but overall we were definitely happy we were able to make it as far as we did.”

According to David Lewis, Women’s Soccer Head Coach, the  team lost 14 players from last year’s National Champion Team due to graduation, injury, or academic conflicts.

“This team’s focus was to improve in two levels: quality of soccer and quality of effort. They improved significantly throughout the season it showed in their post-season play. From start to finish, they represented one of the most improved teams I have coached here at Houghton,” said Lewis.

Men’s midfielder Jesse Toth ’17 said, “We didn’t do as well as we wanted as we lost both our games, but I am super proud of our team and what we accomplished this season.”

He continued, “The National Christian tournament is a very competitive series with some of the best teams around the country. Being in Florida with your best friends is very hard to complain about. While losing was disappointing, when we put it in perspective, we knew we gave it all we had and left nothing on the field.”

Toth reflected on the opportunity to have both Houghton soccer teams in Florida. This is the first time in a few years both teams have been in the tournament at the same time. “Having both teams there was a blast. Our games were spaced out perfectly so we were able to watch each other’s games in their entirety.”

He continued, “It was very cool to get to know some of the girls better. It is so different interacting with people when school is not the focus on people’s minds and you can just have genuine conversation, especially on such a long bus ride.”

While in Florida, the women’s team completed a service project organized by Campus Crusade for Christ (CRU) and Feeding Children Everywhere.  The men and women’s teams who made it to the semi-finals had the opportunity to participate.

“We went to the CRU headquarters to help prepare meals for families to send to Haiti. It was a great time of fellowship with the other teams and a really successful effort to help families in need,” said Zacchigna.

Although neither team brought home a national title, the opportunity for both soccer teams to compete in the tournament was a huge success as they needed both a good record and success in the region tournament in order to move to post-season play.

Toth said, “It has been an absolute privilege to be a part of the Houghton Men’s Soccer Program This team has taught me that it’s not about the result of the game. Win or lose, our main focus is glorifying God through our actions on the field. I truly believe that we accomplished that at the national tournament.”

The National Championship title was claimed by Southwestern Christian University for the men and Colorado Christian University for the women.

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Cross Country Competes In NCAA Regionals

On Saturday, November 12th the Men’s and Women’s Cross Country teams wrapped up their season at the NCAA Atlantic Cross Country Regional Championship in Glassboro, NJ.

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These races, hosted by Rowan University, marked the first time any Houghton team or individual has competed in an NCAA Championship event.

Head coach, Patrick Hager said, “The opportunity to compete in the NCAA Regional means a chance to run with the best in NCAA Division III. This meet is the only way to qualify for the NCAA National Championship race.”

Last year, both cross country teams finished out their season at the NCCAA National Championship. “While the NCCAA is a great organization to be a part of, the NCAA is bigger and more competitive,” said Hager.

Reflecting on the races, Hager said, “The women ran the best race since I’ve been coach here. They went out a little fast, but finished well. Every single one of them set a personal record (PR) in the 6k race and they were able to beat a conference opponent, St. John Fisher, who beat them at the Empire 8 Championship.”

He continued, “The men had a bit of a rough day. They are young, and the season wore on them a bit. But, we can’t overlook what a good experience it was for them. Even with a tough race, a few of the men were able to pull through with PR’s.”

Ella Hotchkiss ‘16  finished first for the women in a time of 23:51.8. Behind her was a strong pack of Shelby Langlois ‘20, Gwen Stokes ‘20, and Rachel Hummel ‘17 who all finished within 22 seconds of each other.

“For Hotchkiss and Karah Ashley ‘16, this was their last collegiate cross country race,” said Hager.“ It was great to see them both PR by around 1:30, what an ending for both of them.”

Hotchkiss attributes her success to her coaches and teammates. “I had no idea what would happen going into this season, now that it’s over I cannot believe the outcomes.”

In the men’s 8k race, Daniel Burdo ‘20 finished first for the Highlanders in a time of 27:36.8, a big PR. He was followed close behind by Cory McCarty ‘17 who finished in 27:43.6. Both McCarty as well as Daniel Schulz ‘17, who finished fourth for the team, finished with their best times of the season.

Ashley said, “We had a lot of freshman on our team this year. It was great to see so many of them compete at this high level meet. Of the 14 who competed at Regionals eight of them were freshman. They really stepped up and helped us accomplish what we did at this race.”

In his reflection, Schultz said, “All the hard work put into this season, guided by our Coach, led us to the success we had this past weekend. We have a lot of teammates that came and gave it their all every race, and this race was certainly an example of that.”

McCarty credited the men for running their fastest average time of the year, although they did not receive many PR’s overall. For McCarty, “The best part of the season was how close the team grew. I am extremely proud of this young team and the potential they have.”

He continued, “As we move into our track season, I’m excited to see our team grow significantly more as Christians, students, and athletes.”

NCAA Atlantic Cross Country Regional Championship hosted 303 runners. The Houghton women finished 26 of 49 teams, and the men finished 31 of 51 teams.

For the NCAA competition, the top seven runners from each team were allowed to compete. This is the first year Houghton has been eligible for post-conference NCAA competition.

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Cross Country Teams Finish Strong

The Houghton cross country team had great success on their home course at the Field of Dreams on Saturday, October 8. The Highlanders competed against six teams, with both the men and women taking second place.

Photo by: Nate Moore
Photo by: Nate Moore

According to head coach, Patrick Hager, almost everyone on the women’s side ran a lifetime personal record, and both teams beat Allegany County rival Alfred State. “Alfred’s beat us the past couple of years, so it’s nice to see us get a win over them,” said Hager.

The Highlanders of Houghton competed against Roberts Wesleyan, Penn State Behrend, Alfred State, Keuka, Finger Lakes Community College, and Elmira. Penn State Behrend took first place in both the men’s and women’s races.

The men and women had several athletes finish in the top 10, and both teams ran faster than they have in the past three years.

Reflecting on the team’s success, Rachel Hummel ‘16 said, “It was really rewarding for all of us to have months of training visibly pay off, especially at the last home meet of the season.”

Hummel finished sixth in her race, right behind teammate Ella Hotchkiss ‘18 who placed fifth. Gwen Stokes ‘20, finished close behind finishing eighth. All three competitors finished within 15 seconds of each other.

“Running alongside some of my closest friends is a huge motivator. We’ve been through alot together in training and I think we would all say that we couldn’t and wouldn’t do it alone,” said Hummel.

Stokes attributed their success to their committed mindset of racing as a team and not just as individuals. “Running together as a pack is really nice and motivational because it really makes you remember that you aren’t doing this for yourself, you are running for your teammates,” she said.

On the men’s side, Tyler Deuschle ‘20 was the first finisher for the Highlanders, placing sixth. Not far behind was Matthew Gostomski ‘19 placing tenth, Daniel Burdo ‘20 placing eleventh, and Cory McCarty ‘17 placing thirteenth.

“We have some very strong underclassmen guys who have really brought a lot of success to our team. I’m excited to see them led the team and keep improving over the next several years,” said captain Aaron Eisenhardt ‘17.

Hager commented, “This is the closest team I’ve had the pleasure of coaching. The freshmen really adjusted quickly and mix well with the upperclassmen personality. I think everyone will look back on this season with a big smile because of how close the team got.”

According to Hager, the meet resulted in the best overall races for the cross country teams in his three years as a coach. The meet was also the biggest home invitational they’ve hosted.

“We got confidence at this meet, and our athletes know that they’re fit and capable of running even faster in a few weeks. We pride ourselves on having a pretty consistent team, and peaking well at the end of our season. After competing so well, it’s fun that we still have a couple of championship races ahead,” said Hager.

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Fall Sports Off to Strong Start

A few weeks into the fall semester, and athletics are off to a good start. Both the women’s tennis team and field hockey team have seen improvements in their season and are fighting hard in competition.

According to Charlie Ellis, head coach of the tennis team, the team is a close-knit group which has a high level of respect for each other and the teams they compete against. It’s been a good season and although they have had some difficulties with illnesses and the high demands of the classroom, the team is holding together very well.

“The girls are an extremely humble group,” said Ellis. “It’s enjoyable to work with them because they really do care about the team and their reputation deeply.”

Ellis emphasized the positive culture his team has created between every player, “These girls enjoy each other’s company regardless of ability. They push each other everyday and work to help each other instead of trying to compete within their team.”

As a coach, Ellis likes to observe the girls who are not typically in the front line up. Their goal is to push the players at the top in practice everyday. “They always do a great job pushing and fighting to reach the top,” said Ellis. He explained how those girls have to work hard because they always have to be ready to be called upon to play in a game.

As a team, “They don’t press and get outside of what they are capable of doing and they don’t embarrass themselves. They make sure the other team has to play and really fight for their points. Even if a team beats us, they have to spend a long time fighting for it,” said Ellis.

Women’s tennis is a new team, just started 4 years ago by their current coach. Ellis attributes their success to the girls’ commitment to improving their tennis game. As a coach, he focuses on the skill sets of his athletes and seeing individual and team improvement each week and year.

Ellis said, “We are more focused on measuring the physical success of tennis skills compared to winning or losing. The skills of our team are better this year for sure.”

The team looks forward to their home match against Alfred University on Tuesday, October 4th. Ellis said, “It’s always a pretty even competition and it’s nice to enjoy a conference match with a team right down the road.”

Also showing success, with a 4-2 record, the field hockey team is one to look out for this season. According to Elizabeth Modesto ‘18, “This year’s team is primarily upperclassmen who have been playing with each other for several years. We’ve also gained some solid key players.”

Captain Kelsie Ashley ‘17 said, “Our team is unique in that we have a larger roster than years past. Even with some new players, our previously young team has transitioned into a veteran squad.”

Modesto commended their strong season to the team’s connectivity on and off the field. This strength is witnessed in their successful passing patterns up the field and their constant communication.

One of the team’s main goals for their season is to push each other to their full potential and raise the overall standard of play.  According to Ashley this is something they talk about regularly as a team.

Moving forward into a busy season, Ashley, Modesto, and their team look forward to more challenging conference games as well as continued growth in their learning and weakness on the field.

Field Hockey plays at home on October 8th and looks forward to redeeming themselves to Washington & Jefferson College after a tough loss last year.

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Senior Class Gifts Apple Orchard

Saturday April 23, willing volunteers and members of the Eco Reps planted an apple orchard on campus. The orchard is located between Steese Cottage and the tennis courts. This installment was given to the college by the class of 2016 as their senior class gift.

The Class of 2016 planted their Senior Class Gift this past Saturday between Steese Cottage and the tennis courts.
The Class of 2016 planted their Senior Class Gift this past Saturday between Steese Cottage and the tennis courts.

The orchard will be maintained by Houghton’s maintenance staff and will be open for use by students, community members. Sodexo will also use them in the cafeteria. The trees will take five to ten years before they are fully-grown and ready for apple picking.

Sustainability coordinator, Brian Webb, facilitated the purchase of about 25 apple trees of different varieties and the Sodexo facilities department worked to prepare the planting area for the trees, including running a water line and digging holes.

“The Eco Reps had been working on the idea of an orchard project for two years. They did the research on the idea and sketched out an initial proposal. I took the idea to the important stakeholders and campus to get it approved,” said Webb

He continued, “Our only barrier was finance, so when the senior class showed some interested it was the perfect solution.”  The class raised over $1,200 for the project, and the sustainability office covered the remainder of the cost.

According to Gabrielle Schott ’16, the senior class gift process begins by gathering ideas from different offices on campus for possible projects. After determining the feasibility of the proposed projects the class cabinet narrows down the choices to two or three options and presents them to the senior class for voting.

“The senior class tossed around ideas for projects but landed on the apple orchard idea because of its uniqueness and the opportunity to see it planted. They also look forward to being a part of the planning before graduation, and ability to watch it grow over the years when they return as alumni,” said Emily Spateholts, Development and Reunion Specialist of the Advancement Office.

The advancement and alumni offices work together with the senior class each year to find a project that represents the class as a whole and strives to leave a lasting legacy for future students. A senior class gift must be reasonable in cost, able to be easily maintained, and able to be enjoyed all across campus rather than by a specific group of people.

Webb commented, “My hope is that the Houghton College Orchard will help connect students both to their food and to the natural environment around them.”

He continued, “Having an orchard on campus will help students see God’s creation as more than just a pretty landscape, but as something that we can actually play a role in wisely stewarding. Plus it will be awesome for students to walk over, pick an apple and eat it.”

According to Webb, the sustainability office has plans to incorporate other trees, as well, including pears, peaches, cherry trees, and maybe even grapes.

 

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Shen to Expand Upperclassman Housing

Residence life is expanding housing options for upperclassmen by adding a townhouse floor to the basement of Shenawana (Shen) Hall starting fall 2016. The townhouse floor is a more recent option for living on campus that combines the rules of a townhouse with the setting of a dormitory.

Shen-jason-stephensA townhouse floor was added to Gillette in 2014. According to Jason Stephens, the Residence Director (RD) of Shen, a townhouse floor has all the benefits of a townhouse. Such benefits include extended open hours, more options when it comes to meal plans, not quite as much involvement from an RA, and a lower cost than a townhouse.

Last fall Stephens also took on the role as Assistant Director of Student Programs. Through his busy dual role with campus activities and as the RD of Shen, his time has been divided. “We were able to create an assistant residence director position (ARD) for next year to help with some of the tasks it was difficult for me to complete in Shen this year,” said Stephens.

Ian DeHaas ‘17 will take on the role as ARD and live on the townhouse floor.

Instead of putting the ARD on a floor with first-year students–where it would take time and energy to help them through their transition into college–the college decided to put him with the townhouse floor residents where he can be more of a support to students who already know have experience navigating  the Houghton college environment.

The townhouse floor setting is built to support the ARD, so he can still take on the RA role of a floor, but with residents who will not need his support as much. It has seven rooms, one being the ARD room. The basement of Shen also has a full kitchen and large lounge.

“I am really excited for the townhouse floor opportunity,” said DeHaas. “I am working with Jason to develop ways the upperclassman on my floor can pour into the underclassman on other floors in intentional ways. I want them to still be plugged in to Shen and connected with other guys.”

According to DeHaas, because the basement floor in Shen only has seven rooms, compared to the other 13 to 21 room floors, it is hard to get guys to sign up to live down there as people tend to want to be on a bigger floor. “Since the level of interaction is pretty low the basement is a hard floor to start out on because it is kind of isolating,” said DeHaas.

Chris Guntz ‘17, a future resident of the townhouse floor said, “I’ve always loved the

atmosphere of Shenawana Hall and all that it has stood for. I love the people and living in the dorms. I’m excited I get to exercise more freedom by living on the townhouse floor combined with being able to live in the dorms.”

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Professor Initiates Retirement With College’s New Plan

Longtime professor, Gary Baxter, will be retiring from his position as professor of art  as he decreases his teaching load over the next two years.

This decision is part of the new Retirement Incentive Plan now offered by the college. “The plan was offered to tenured teaching faculty meeting a minimum age requirement,” said Dale Wright, Executive Director of Human Resources.

GaryBaxter_RGBAccording to Wright, participation in the program is voluntary and candidates have two options. The first option is to retire at the end of this current academic year; while the second is to phase into retirement with reduced teaching loads over the next two years.

The plan was offered with two main goals. The first being to give long-serving faculty members who chose to, an opportunity to retire or to reduce their teaching load earlier than they might have otherwise been able to. The plan also hopes to assist the institution in aligning faculty resources with the current size and distribution across academic programs. Wright confirmed that the plan has been well received by the college and participating faculty.

For Baxter this plan was exactly what he wanted. He said, “The work I’ve been doing for the college and in the ceramics studio is pretty physical, so it would be nice to slow down the pace a little bit.” Baxter currently teaches art classes in ceramics, three-dimensional design, and sculpture. Carrolin Jackson, a senior art major, described Baxter saying, “He has always found a way to see beauty and merit in nearly every one of his students’ endeavors, encouraging and provoking in such a way that always brings their projects and ideas to a great completion

than before.” The plan is for Baxter to only teach ceramics for the next two years and for the college to hire a new professor within that period.  In the meantime, they may have to hire an adjunct professor to teach Three-Dimensional Design and Sculpture.

The transition of older professors into retirement allows for younger professors to transition into the department. Baxter said, “I think for a lot of students there’s a great deal of appeal to having young faculty members.”Baxter continued,, “I think it’s good to have balance, with some older and some younger faculty. But I think it’s good to have some new blood. With new blood comes new energy for the department.”  

After retiring, Baxter will continue making art. At his home he has a studio with both a wood burning and gas kiln. “I am planning to continue to produce ceramic art and continue working for as long as my health allows me to,” he said. Baxter continued, “I have a pile of books to read that I haven’t been able to get around to, and it’d also be nice to travel.” While he has been on several trips to Europe with students, those trips always take place in the summer during high tourist season.  Baxter expressed excitement to be able to travel to places like Greece, Turkey, and Japan during the off-season when it is less touristy. She continued, “While his absence will be sorely felt, his impact and influence in his students’ lives will only continue to bloom and resonate for many years to come.”

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Women’s Soccer Claims NCCAA National Title

The Houghton College women’s soccer team claimed their first ever National Christian College Athletic Association (NCCAA) National Championship title, defeating Mississippi College, on Saturday, December 5 in Kissimmee, Florida.

In the championship game, Sarah Gabriele ‘16 scored Houghton’s lone goal with only 1.7 seconds left in the standard game, after a free kick. This brought the game to a tie sending the women into overtime.

The Highlanders fought for their title in double overtime and finally claimed it in a penalty shoot-out after a week of competing in the NCCAA National Tournament.

rp_primary_rp_primary_2015_DIWS_Houghton_Champs31During the shoot-out, team members Gabriele, Meagan Barry ‘19, Torri Sperl ‘18, and Kristi Spotts ‘18 scored penalty kicks leading the team to victory.

Head coach David Lewis noted that the women have played in multiple National Tournaments reaching the Sweet 16, Elite 8, and last year the Final Four. However, this is the first time the women have appeared in the Championship Match.

“Every day we worked hard and were dedicated to achieving this goal. We played a lot of really strong competition all throughout the season that really prepared us for the NCCAA post-season,” said Gabriele.

Lewis commented, “This team has been eager to improve. They have not been content with the status quo, but have committed themselves to improve individually and corporately. Their improvement has been evident throughout the season. Their play and the subsequent results are a testament to their hard work.”

To qualify for this national tournament the women had to meet the standards set by the school to qualify for post-season. According to Harold ‘Skip’ Lord, Executive Director of Intercollegiate Athletics, this meant achieving a minimum 0.550 win/loss record and Top 10 in the national NCCAA rankings.

Additionally, they had to win the Midwest Region of the NCCAA. They achieved this by defeating Lancaster Bible College and Ohio Christian University.

“We are very proud of the great season that Coach Lewis and the women’s soccer team have put together. They have succeeded not only on the field, but in the classroom, on campus and most importantly in representing Christ in all they do,” said Lord.

Captain Jenny Zacchigna ‘17 commented, “It was easy to see how God was working within our team and blessing us continually as the week went on. The exciting finish to the final game was not only a product of hard work by the entire team and Coach Lewis, but a reminder that a team who plays to glorify Him can do amazing things.”

With their championship title, the Highlanders finished their season with a final record of 16-6-2. This is the first national title for a Houghton women’s team and the first for any Houghton team since men’s soccer claimed the NCCAA title in 1986.
“This has been my third year competing at nationals and there is really nothing like it. You just get to play soccer with your best friends every day in the warmth of Florida. It’s a great experience and blessing to get to play in the tournament, this year even more so because we accomplished what we set out to do,” said Captain Bailey Shattell ‘17.

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Turkey Drive Raises Food for Local Families

Houghton College partnered with local food pantries for a turkey drive, run by the Student Government Association (SGA) that ended on November 21, and raised $662.72.

While the drive fell far behind the goal of $1,750, the donations were still able to ensure many families in Allegany County enjoyed a Thanksgiving meal.

“The turkeys from this drive were distributed to food pantries in Fillmore, Rushford, and at the Houghton Wesleyan Church. A few turkeys were also donated to Wellspring Ministry,” said Ray Parlett, director of campus safety and security.

Sarah makosyThe Houghton Wesleyan Church food pantry received and distributed 49 turkeys. The church also gave out 50 bags of potatoes, and 60 desserts to go along with donated Thanksgiving meals, confirmed Patty Stalker, Administrative Assistant at the church.

“The families who came to receive turkeys were so appreciative,” commented Cindy Austin, member of the Houghton Wesleyan Church.

The turkey drive consisted of three forms of fundraising including a penny drive, a 5K Turkey Trot, and the purchasing of paper feathers from the dining hall. Of all the money raised, the dining hall fundraiser was the most successful, raising almost $300.

“The turkey drive has gone better in the past. We did not meet our goal, which is disappointing. However, we started what we hope will be a new tradition with the Turkey Trot,” commented Sarah Makosy, Executive Officer of Student Life.

“There were 25 competitors, varying from students, faculty, and community members,” commented Patrick Hager, head coach of the cross-country team. “With it being a small event, it was pretty easy for Sarah and I to coordinate registration and timing.”

He continued, “I would hope that in years to come it could be a much larger event, and we could contribute more turkeys to the community. I think the campus will rally around that.”

During the penny drive containers were labeled with four different costume options. Whichever costume raised the most money would be worn by Dean Jordan during the Turkey Trot. According to Makosy, the Baymax costume, from the movie Big Hero 6, was the winner.
“We definitely could’ve raised more money. But I’m happy that we were able to help out the Houghton community in this way,” commented Makosy.

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On Dating Your First Year

The transition from high school to college is full of new experiences.  It is a time to be independent, try new things and ultimately learn more about who we are and where we are going. As freshmen, students live in a new place, make new friends, and some even find a new romantic relationship. But wait, is a relationship really what we should focus our time on-especially freshman year?

In the college environment it is easy to become over dependent on another person and become completely entangled in a relationship. By dating so soon in college I believe you will make fewer friends and won’t develop as much independence.

kaseyWhen you date someone on campus, the urge to hang out is continuous since the opportunity is always present. When you live less than a mile apart, share the same dining room, and stay on the same campus once the school day is over, it’s hard to create separation.

I came across an article in Psychology Today entitled, “Enmeshment in Family Relationships” by Randi Kreger. It describes how reliance on a relationship can turn into enmeshment.

This can be defined as the trouble that occurs when time passes and one stops becoming an individual with separate thoughts, feelings, beliefs, opinions, hobbies, etc.  Essentially, couples become highly reliant on each other and each individual tends to lose his or her sense of self.

Although this problem can arise in any stage of life, I feel it is of high concern for first year students who are trying to navigate so many new roles in life. When they enter into a relationship so early in an already big transition a lot of key foundational elements get pushed aside.

A person becomes so highly invested in making the relationship work that they spend a smaller amount of time creating core friendships. More importantly, an individual does not take time to be one’s own person and truly understand their values, beliefs, and desires.

In discussing this topic, Nancy Murphy, a counselor at Houghton, commented, “I think the biggest reason for not dating freshman year is that there are so many more critical areas of self-development and self-discovery (managing emotions, identifying personal strengths and challenges, gaining competence and confidence socially and professionally, etc.) that could be sidelined prematurely.”

She continues, “If one gets into a “relationship” in order to find the “right person”, it is important to know oneself.”

Speaking from personal experience, my boyfriend and I met our first year, but both came to college not wanting to date our first year. Although we each had intentions of potentially dating in the future, we wanted to take the time to get to know each other and build a solid foundation of friendship first.

We didn’t want to jump into anything too quickly especially with so much change already going on in our lives. We started dating our sophomore year and found it truly beneficial to have taken the time to be friends, live separate lives, and establish our own friends.

In addition, with some space we have been able to better understand the college atmosphere and how we each fit into the big picture of Houghton. Striving for balance is really important and even as juniors, we are figuring out that it is good for us to do different things, keep some space, and not neglect our individuality.

Maria Tricarico ‘16 started dating her fiancé during the second semester of her first year. She reflected on her experience and said, “Honestly, the fact that I was dating didn’t really impact my education. Both my boyfriend and I were very committed to our education and we were good at prioritizing when it came to school. We struck up a healthy balance.”

Tricarico believes the impacts of a relationship are not determined by a person’s school year. Rather, it is based on the maturity and understanding of each couple. She said, “I think people need to decide for themselves whether or not dating is a good idea for them at that specific time, and they should understand why it is that they think that.”

As students, I believe we need to gain independence and confidence that we are okay by ourselves before we can enter into a relationship with full confidence. Ultimately, I do not recommended dating your first year of college but rather spend time getting to know yourself.

However, whether you are a freshman or a senior, if you do decide to enter into a committed relationship I would encourage you to take time to establish strong friendships and to understand yourself first. Without a relationship do you feel like you have time to invest in yourself? Will you be able to invest in another person without taking away that personal time?

Additionally, within a relationship continue to assess your level of enmeshment as a couple. Are you neglecting your individuality? Do you feel like you constantly have to be involved in aspects of each other’ lives?

According to Psychology Today, in healthy relationships with a strong connection each person can pay attention to the other without losing or compromising their sense of self. You should be able to be separate without falling apart and be together without losing your individuality.

Your freshman year is going to be filled with new experiences as well as people. Take time to develop friendships and save the serious dating for later. Do not forget to be yourself in every relationship.  Responsibly set aside time to reflect on your emotions and continue to be aware of your involvement in each others lives.