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Let’s Talk About Whiteness

Race is on our minds. The Black Lives Matter movement has brought Afro-American interests to our cultural consciousness, especially ones relating to our police force and courts. Some people are not a fan of this movement’s ideas or practices, and have tried to instead bring “All Lives Matter” or “Blue Lives Matter” to the forefront. Meanwhile, the recent election highlighted an important political line in the sand; that is, between white people (who made up a huge majority of votes for the Republican Party) and people of color (a huge majority of whom voted with the Democratic Party). Of course, race is sometimes an uncomfortable topic, and these things can be hard to talk about. However, in my experience, an important part of these discussions is left out far too often: whiteness.

Photo by: Nate Moore
Photo by: Nate Moore

It is widely accepted that racial categories, including that of “white,” are arbitrary distinctions that are sociocultural, not biological. Still, race is real. That is, since we all perceive people to be of different races (“black”, “white”, “Asian”, “Hispanic”, etc.) and treat them as such, it is an undeniably real part of each person’s experience of their life. More than that, we are all socialized by mass media, public education, and even each other to think and act like others of our race.

Many people of color I have spoken to about race can speak deeply and eloquently about their experience as a member of their race. For example, one black person I have known for years has many stories from her life that she uses to describe her own racially defined life. She shares them with humility, hoping to help people of other races to understand what it’s like to be a black woman in America. This is the case with almost all of the people of color I have close relationships with: they know what it means that their lives are racialized.

In contrast, I know very few white people who can do the same. For some reason, something in common with nearly all of the white people in my life is that they think and talk very little about their own racial experiences. This is a problem.

There are many things that white people have in common. White people all tend to have a Euro-centric view of the world, Germanic-Latin first and last names, similar hair and beauty products. Personally,  it’s rare for strangers to be afraid of me, or for law enforcers (police officers, judges, security guards, etc.) to be suspicious of me. In fact, I’m automatically trusted in almost every context. I suspect this is also true for the white people reading this. As members of an individualistic culture that originally came mostly from individualistic cultures, it is easiest for us to see how we are each different. In reality, however, sharing a racial category gives us many experiences in common, for better or worse.

These experiences, and many others, have socialized us into a white worldview, one which is full of contradictions. We have been taught that American history is mostly the positive history of white Americans discovering land, creating many things (including democracy, airplanes, and nuclear weapons), and upholding freedom. Meanwhile, we all but ignore the fact that white Americans have consistently enslaved, murdered, deported, and imprisoned Americans of other races. We as white people live mostly in segregated communities and attend mostly segregated churches, and still think we are objective in our analyses of racial issues. We worry about Muslim terrorists, without doing much about white supremacists. The list goes on. White people, myself included, cannot help but see things most easily from a white point of view. We need to recognize and discuss whiteness for this reason.

michaelquoteIn suggesting that we talk more about whiteness, I definitely do not suggest that we move the focus of every conversation about race onto white people. In many cases, that sort of “but what about me/us/white people?” is distracting and unhelpful. I am simply suggesting that whiteness is an important aspect of American culture that we must confront.

So what, realistically, should white people do? We can spend time reading and listening about the life experiences of people of color – there is much about this online – and comparing it to our own. We can talk with one another about ways that our whiteness leads us to believe partial truths (as all racialized people experience to varying degrees), and humbly ask people of color to speak truth in love.

Historically, whiteness has largely been used (and continually redefined) in America to separate “white” from “non-white” in very concrete ways (e.g. “master” from “slave”, “legal citizen” from “illegal immigrant”, “nice schools” from “bad part of town”). Inheriting whiteness from those who have gone before leaves white people with a great responsibility: leaving a better legacy than the ones who gave us the name. We can only do that if we know exactly what it means to be white.

Michael is a senior applied design and visual communication major.

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Me, Marriage, and the Myth of Sexuality

I am what some would call “ex-gay”. Let me explain.

Since late middle school, I have almost exclusively been attracted to men, both physically and visually – sometimes emotionally, too. I remember finding girls and women physically attractive for a year or two before this, but seventh grade is about the time I became addicted to pornography, and my view of men and women quickly became distorted. I’ve lost most battles against the temptation of pornography since. Each time, I fell for the temptation to sexualize images of men. It has always been tempting to define myself as “gay” or “homosexual”, but I never actually have. Inwardly, though, I have questioned my sexuality many times. It is only within the past two years that, with the help of counseling, accountability, support, and Christ’s redemptive power, I have begun healing. And as I recover from a porn addiction, my sexuality has been healing, too.

Do understand: my story is mine alone, and cannot be used as an exemplar of “the gay story”, if one even exists. Nevertheless, I think my story is an important one, as I can honestly say that I have walked, am walking, and will continue to walk away from any thoughts and behavior that could be categorized as “homosexual”. Also, I believe a lot of the things that I have learned along the way are worth sharing.

I have always believed that homosexual behavior – in this case defined as sexual acts between two people of the same sex, and any physical or emotional intimacy that accompanies it – is defined by Scripture as sinful. However, for many years, this left me in a somewhat hopeless state. I did not remember ever choosing homosexuality, so I did not see how I could ever choose to give it up. And I never found myself lusting after women, like the guys around me did, so how could I even begin a serious relationship with a woman? I was surprised to find that the Bible’s most applicable response to this question is found in Paul’s exhortation in 1 Corinthians 7, verse 2: “…because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.” Scripture’s advice to me became clear: If I find myself tempted to be overtly sexual in any way, I ought to take seriously the recommendation to marry a woman.

At face value, this seems ridiculous. If that’s what you’re thinking, I’m not surprised. Our culture propagates the idea that we are born into one unchangeable sexuality, and most of us in the Church have fallen for it. I am living proof, though, that this is untrue. While homosexuality was never a conscious choice I made, I was not born into it, either. From the beginning, my story shows that sexuality is determined by sexual behavior (physical and mental), not the other way around. I know that most of my natural desire, the things I think will make me happy, are actually unhealthy. When I study lists of sins in the Bible, I find that this is the point of all God’s commands: He knows what is good for us and what isn’t; we think we know, but are usually wrong.

Over time, God has helped me to appreciate Biblical marriage as the important and graceful gift it is. The New Testament makes it clear that the reason God gave us marriage in the first place is so that it could model the Gospel. Husbands have the opportunity to live out a beautiful picture of Christ as they die to themselves and take responsibility for leading their wives and families. Wives can live out a wonderful picture of the Church by showing love and respect to their husbands. This relationship can model this aspect of the Gospel like no other human relationship can. Of course, this is one of many mysteries of our faith that I am just beginning to learn.

Many will tell you that attractions are nigh-impossible to change. Addictions, too. I would say the same. But I know that with God, all things are possible. For this reason I hold to Romans 12:1-2. “I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” In the face of a porn addiction and difficult-to-change attractions, this is my hope. If you find yourself in a similar place, may this be your hope, too.

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Let’s Talk About Pornography

Let’s get uncomfortable for a minute. Pornography. Wikipedia defines it as “the portrayal of sexual subject matter for the purpose of sexual arousal”, and (though it’s Wikipedia) that’s clear enough for me. With the widespread reach of the internet, pornography has become incredibly pervasive. If you’ve never seen it, you’re in the American minority. 9/10 boys and 6/10 girls have seen porn before they turn 18. With the knowledge that so many Americans have seen (and regularly watch) porn, it is insane that I never hear anyone talking about it! Pornography is hugely widespread and problematic in many ways, and we need to speak up.

Michael Carpenter RGBArguably the most important problem that needs to be addressed is this: porn is a multi-billion dollar industry that profits by exploiting men and women worldwide and it is largely an industry made up of human trafficking. In the United States, the primary cause of human trafficking is for sex, including pornography acting. In many cases, porn actors have no escape from their sexual career, largely because of the economic and social difficulties of moving on. Even in cases where actors and actresses intentionally choose to join the industry, they are often horribly mistreated by those they work for and act with. People are treated like objects that can be assigned worth and sold as visual pieces to a viewer’s sexual fulfillment puzzle. Among actors and actresses in the industry, there is an incredibly high rate of substance abuse and sexually transmitted diseases. The way people are treated in the pornography industry is unacceptable, and needs to stop.

Another huge issue related to porn is addiction. Regular exposure to sexually explicit imagery changes the brain in ways similar to hardcore drugs, not to mention the many ways it confuses viewers and causes them to forget or misunderstand normal sexual interaction and healthy intimacy. Porn distorts sexuality, damages relationships, and confuses one’s understanding of healthy gender interactions, all the while setting up chemical pathways in the brain that draw viewers back for more.  It is amazing that we stay so quiet about this, especially given the probability that there are many among us addicted to porn. Among Christians who are willing to answer questions about their histories with porn, 64% of men reported that they view porn at least once a month, along with 15% of women. If we as a church want to help those around us to be free from this harmful addiction, we need to model that freedom first.

Michael-QuoteIn case nobody has told you yet: porn use is a form of sexual immorality. Galatians 5 tells us, “Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality… I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.” Our hope in Christ is a hope of righteousness and purity, and we cannot neglect sexual purity along the way.

It is clear that pornography is an issue of mental health, human rights, economic justice, and moral purity. And yet, porn addiction is hidden and kept secret. Occasionally, when it is talked about, it is often normalized. But pornography is not normal or okay, no matter how many people use it.

Church, please talk about it. Houghton, please talk about it. Christians, rise up about it! This problem will not go away with silence. Let’s start with ourselves. James 5 says, “Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.” Let’s begin with healing each other, and then let the world know the freedom they can have in Christ.

There is freedom for sexual slaves, who are separated from anyone who loves them, and who are treated like dirt. There is freedom for addicts, whose minds, bodies, and relationships are broken. There is freedom to be a part of the Kingdom of God, but only if we address this, and do it in Jesus’ name.

All statistics and research are from Covenant Eyes. If you’re addicted to porn, check out Fight the New Drug’s “Fortify Program”, an online pornography addiction recovery program.