BY: Sara Martinez ('28)
Hello my fellow international students and any other American students that may be reading! I am writing about culture shock in order to give everyone tips on how to embrace a new culture while still holding onto your own. As well as tips for how to help your international friends adapt to your country and culture.
We know that Houghton University is a quite diverse place that teaches students to celebrate our differences. This means that on campus, there are many students from all over the world, including me. I decided to write about the biggest dread of any international student, CULTURE SHOCK!
When moving to America, I didn’t think I would be affected by culture shock. Despite growing up in Latin America, I believed I had a connection with American culture since my dad is American. I attended a missionary school that revolved around it. Then I came to America, and everything was a lot different than I expected. The way people dress, the way they interact with others, the way people say “hi”, the way people eat, and even the popular music and movies were all a shock to me. Honestly, the first few weeks I was sad. I really missed my culture, my friends, and even speaking Spanish with other native speakers. However, I have also learned how amazing America is and the ways I can appreciate the beauty of this country despite the differences.
I interviewed a few other students experiencing culture shock and below are methods they and I used to cope with this change.
When adapting to a new culture:
- Embrace curiosity: Have an open mind when exploring new experiences. Be curious about the local culture, traditions, and people around you. Ask questions and be willing to learn about the differences rather than shy away from them.
- Stay connected to your roots: It’s important to maintain connections with your home country. Bring some aspects of your culture with you, like cooking familiar foods or connecting with fellow students from your country/culture, to keep a sense of comfort and identity. Music and movies are also a great way to keep close to your culture.
- Build a support network: Form friendships with both locals and other international students. Join clubs, groups, or communities on campus that align with your interests or background (ISA, MuKappa, BHC). This helps create a social safety net and eases feelings of isolation.
- Practice self-care: Culture shock can be mentally and emotionally draining. Take time to de-stress and recharge. Whether it’s through exercise, meditation, skin care, or pursuing hobbies, be mindful of your emotional well-being.
- Be patient with yourself: Adapting to a new culture takes time. It’s normal to experience confusion or frustration. Give yourself permission to make mistakes and recognize that adapting is a gradual process. Celebrate small wins along the way. If you do get overwhelmed, it’s always okay to take a break and say no.
- Respect yourself: Some cultures see respect differently than others, so if you feel someone is disrespecting you don’t be afraid to tell them how you feel. If they don’t respect that then maybe you should look for more understanding friends who will. That said, it doesn’t mean you need to break that friendship, but I would suggest keeping a little more distance.
I do have to say I am grateful for the friends I made here. They really helped me adapt and enjoy my new life on campus. Here are a few things they have done that I have really appreciated: - Being patient and listening actively: International students may face language barriers or struggle to express themselves fully. Speaking in your 3rd or 4th language is really hard sometimes. Be patient, listen carefully, and give them time to articulate their thoughts. Active listening will make them feel understood and supported.
- Asking about their culture: Show genuine interest in their background. Ask about their home country, traditions, food, and experiences. This can make them feel valued and appreciated, while also helping you understand their perspective better. We love sharing about our culture.
- Being mindful of cultural differences: Recognize that what might be considered normal or polite in one culture may not be the same in another. Be aware of differences in communication styles, gestures, or social norms, and avoid making assumptions about behavior.
- Invite them to participate in local activities: Help your international friends by introducing them to local traditions, events, and social activities. Whether it’s a campus event or a casual outing. This helps them feel more integrated into the community.
- Offering practical help: International students may need assistance navigating daily life, like understanding local transportation, finding the right place to shop, or dealing with administrative tasks. Offer practical advice or accompany them when needed to make things easier.
Adapting to a new culture as an international student can be challenging, but with understanding, patience, and support, both you and your friend(s) can survive college together. Never forget to embrace your differences and learn from one another. By respecting each other’s differences you’ll not only make the experience smoother but also build a stronger, more meaningful connection. ★